Starting secondary school is a bit of a nerve wrecking time for us parents, as well as are children. This time last year I vividly remember waving my eldest off for her first day at secondary school. She looked so smart and grown up in her new uniform, but she also looked so young and innocent at the same time. She was excited for starting her new school, not at all worried or nervous, her only concern was in case she got lost. Me on the other hand, well I was a bag of nerves. She may have been eleven, almost twelve but she will still my baby girl.
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As I waved her off my tummy was in knots as she left to catch the school bus, I was no longer needed to walk her to school and hold her hands across the roads like when she was small. There would be no more school runs chatting about her day, instead she would be off on a bus full of grown up children without me.
I worried if the older children would be nice or not. Many thoughts crossed my mind such as what if she was not in a class with her friends, what if she struggled to make new friends, what if she got lost or the teachers were mean. What if she got in with a bad crowd and became a one of those teens you see hanging around with a face full of make-up, cigarette hanging out their mouth terrorising the elderly, thinking they are hard. I was worried she would change like everyone said that she would from my sweet and innocent girl to a tween with a bad attitude.
So many worries that I am sure so many other parents shared.
A year has now passed since she started secondary school, she is now in year eight. So what was the first year of secondary school like ? need I have worried ? The answer is no I had no need to worry at all.
It did not matter that she was in a different class to all of her friends as she made so many new friends, ironically she is best friends with some girls she knew from primary school but never played with. She has made lots of new friends, her tutor is lovely and she has never gotten lost once and nor were any of the older children ever mean to her.
Yes she has changed this last year as all children do, long gone are the days of playing with toys and having bedtime stories. Now she prefers spending time watching you tube and netflix, painting her nails and face-timing her friends. She always wants to be out with her friends, going shopping or swimming or the local park. She has an interest in make-up and clothes and spends hours online looking at the Claire's website or you tube nail art tutorials.
She has an attitude at times, as I imagine all tweens do. But I am happy to say she is not a one of those awful teenagers that hang around shops thinking they are hard. Secondary school has changed her, it has made her grow up and be more independent. But it is a good thing not a bad. At times she can be hard work but I am blaming it on her age with all those crazy hormones that whizz around teenagers bodies.
So if your tween has recently started secondary school try not to worry, it really is not to bad at all. Yes they will change but that is all just a part of grown up, that is just life. They will make new friends, have adventures, grow as a person, become a bit more independent and they will also give you a glimmer of the adult they will soon become.