Friday, 21 February 2020

A Year To Change My Life

The past few months have been rubbish, I have been poorly again! This time with a nasty chest infection which I am currently on antibiotics for. Since October I have been unwell, I had flu which totally wiped me out for two months and as soon as I started to get better I came down with this chest infection which has floored me for the past four weeks. I am fed up and I feel awful complaining about it but being unwell has started to affect my ability to be a good mam and that is something that is getting me down. We had so many plans this half-term and they have all been ruined by me being unwell. 

I have decided enough is enough and I need to change my life, not only for myself but for my family too. So I am giving myself a year to change my life for the better. Now before I start I know I am so lucky to have the life I do, I have just got married and have three happy, healthy children. My husband has a good job and I am a stay-at-home mam and we have a nice home and are able to have holidays. But I need to change things in my life to make me healthier and happier and a better mam to my children. 

So what do I want to change?

Improve My Health

I know I can't help being unwell, anyone can catch flu or develop a chest infection I get that. However I don't normally get ill, I have always been pretty healthy - bar the odd cold or sickness bug the kids have passed on to me. When I went to the doctors on Monday for my chest infection it was the first time I had been in five and a half years, and that was only for my 6 week post-baby checkup.  But the past six months I have been catching every bug going and it is taking me forever to recover. I think my health has a lot to do with me getting ill, that and getting older as I am 36 now. 

I am overweight, I don't exercise at all - apart from walking, I don't drink enough water, I drink way too much coffee and eat far too many crisps and treats. It needs to stop. This run of sickness has been a wake-up call. I need to lose weight and I need to get healthy. 

In the past, I have joined slimming clubs, tried fad diets and honestly, nothing worked. This time I just want to concentrate on being healthy, eating healthy meals, cutting out the snacks, eating more fruit and veg, drinking more water and moving more. No quick fixes or gimmicks just basic common sense to eat less (and better) and move more. 

I don't want to be or am I ever likely to be a size 10, but I do want and need to lose weight. Hopefully, a year will give me enough time to lose enough weight to be healthier. 

Manage Stress 

Another thing that I think has contributed to me being so run-down is that I have been so stressed the past year. I was stressing about our wedding last summer, then we had a huge unexpected household bill that put us in financial difficulties for a few months. I also took too much on returning to study, trying to run this blog, decorating the house and keeping up with three kids various activities. It was too much for a disorganised and easily stressed and anxious person like myself. 

So I need to get organised, I need to start planning stuff better and to stop leaving things to the last minute as that is what stresses me out. I got myself a planner last week and I have been getting organised by writing everything down and planning downtime in as this is important for me as I have hypermobility and if I do too much then my body is in pain for days afterwards. 

I really feel that by being organised it will help me massively as I can be more prepared. I have started meal planning again, I have written up a cleaning rota for the house, planned a study schedule for my course work and I have been planning blog content. 

I also have a budget for the household bills for the first time ever and have opened a savings account, we have taken out life insurance - proper grown-up stuff. 

Hopefully, this will help me manage my stress levels better as I will be prepared, organised and have a better handle on our finances. 

Declutter / Finish House

We have lived in our home for three years now and we still have so much to do to make it 'ours'. I really want to just get it finished this year as then I can just relax. At the moment it just feels like there is always something to do with the house which stresses me out. So the plan is to declutter one room a month - we have a crazy amount of stuff. Decorate the children's bedroom, give the kitchen, bathroom and toilet a lick of paint. Decorate the utility room and sort the gardens out. 

We have tons of little things to do too, like putting up pictures on the walls, new light fittings etc. We have got all of the major things out the way the last couple of years so now it is just a case of finishing all the little jobs out and getting it cosy. 

Learn To Drive 

Something I need to do is to learn to drive, my teen is currently learning and I really need too. Now the children are getting older and do so many activities I need to drive just to be able to take them places so my goal is to learn to drive and to have hopefully passed by this time next year. 

I think being able to drive will do wonders for my confidence, it will get me out of the house more and doing more on my own with the children and just make life easier. 

There are so many other things I want to change in my life but these are the ones that I feel will help me to change and improve my life. I am giving my self a year to lose weight and get healthier, get organised and stop stressing, to sort the house out once and for all and to learn to drive. I will write a little update post on here each month to let you know how I get on, a way of accountability. 

I really need to change my life as it is not healthy being overweight and stressed, my recent bout of ill health shows that. I need to change for myself and also for my children and if I don't do it now then I never will. I want a better life for my family and I am the only one who can change my life. Hopefully, in a years time, I will be happier, healthier and will have changed my life in a year. 

Starting next week I will be sharing my healthy meals and decluttering mission over on Instagram stories daily along with other day to day life snippets, my Instagram is newcastlefamilylife



  1. Sounds like you've got some great goals for the year, I find writing it all down really helps as you can refer back to it whenever you need some motivation! Melis x

  2. I think you're making a huge positive step in the right direction Lindsay. The fact that you've put yourself 'out there' and stated what you want to change is great - it's a small step in the right direction. Working on looking after yourself (less stress, being more healthy) is key - and if you take baby steps when it comes to sorting out the house and decorating, it won't seem so daunting - best of luck...I'm right behind you! x


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