As you know this is my third pregnancy and I already have two girl's aged eleven and one, I love them to bits and would not change them for the world but I just have to say to all you first-time mum's to be out there I am jealous of you! Being pregnant when you already have children to look after is damn hard work. In your final weeks of pregnancy you are advised to rest and put your feet up and enjoy nesting but in reality, you cant do any of that when you have other little people to look after. Looking after yourself and resting comes bottom of your list of priorities.
I am lucky that this has been my most easy straightforward pregnancy so far but now my due date is looming I am starting to feel pretty knackered, my feet are swollen, I spend half the night awake as I cant get comfortable. But I still have to get up at 7am with Sophia and I still have to cook, clean, and try and entertain a toddler and a tweenager all day long. I am bloody exhausted.
My house is a mess and to be honest so am I, my hair is long overdue a cut, my eyebrows are all bushy and I forgot the last time I shaved my legs. I only have 17 days to my induction date and in reality, the baby could arrive anytime between now and then. I have not even had a chance to pack my hospital bag, wash the baby clothes or even buy some of the baby things I need. So much for going into nesting mode, spring cleaning the house and baking cakes like is often portrayed by the media in the final few weeks of a woman's pregnancy. If I had five minutes to myself to 'nest' I would probably fall asleep. I am sure baby won't mind if all the kitchen cupboards have been neatly organised or not. As for baking cakes,Ii am sure the girls would prefer a Mr Kipling cake to anything I can rustle up in the kitchen as I am not the best of cooks.
I look back now with fond memory's of my previous pregnancy's as with my oldest daughter I was a first time mummy to be and I had plenty of time to relax, I could have baths during the day, I could go for pamper days I went a bit over the top baby shopping and I was super organised.I read pregnancy books and magazine non-stop and knew what was happening with baby's development every week. I was pregnancy mad and eager to learn as much as I could.
Even in my second pregnancy I could relax as there is a ten year gap between my girls, so once I was on maternity leave I could have lie-ins on weekends and laze around during the day when Chloe was at school and I could clean to my hearts content (I cleaned non stop in my last pregnancy). When I was suffering badly with morning sickness or in my case it was night time sickness for the whole nine months! it was o.k I could go and hug the toilet for half an hour and I knew Chloe was o.k happily watching tv, I would never have been able to do that now with a one-year-old to look after.
This pregnancy I have only just started my baby shopping at 8 months pregnant, I never get a chance to read books or magazines and I haven't got a clue what my baby is up to this week. it's not that I don't care about the baby because I do, I am so happy to be pregnant its just I know that baby is o.k and developing normally and I kind of know what to expect with pregnancy now.
With your first baby, one of the biggest worries is if you have the perfect hospital bag packed with my third pregnancy I am more worried about making sure my girls are o.k when I am in labour, luckily we have three lots of relatives on standby to watch them. With your first baby, you want everything to be perfect for there arrival, with the third I just want to make sure I have the essential baby stuff ready. With your first, you want to look nice in labour and pack makeup in your hospital bag, with your third you try to remind yourself to shave your legs and makeup is the last thing on your mind. With your first baby, you have so many daydreams about being a parent and dressing baby in a gorgeous outfit for a nice day out, with your third you dream of someone taking the baby out for an hour so you can have a shower. With your first baby you look forward to midwife appointments and ask lots of questions, with your third appointments are a nightmare as you have to arrange childcare or take your children with you.
Oh, how I wish I could have a day off from being a mum to lovingly wash and iron all the baby clothes, pack my hospital bag, bake cakes, have a pamper, an afternoon nap and lie on the sofa reading a baby magazine. But truth be told if I was giving a day off I would probably spend the day tidying up and missing my girls. Yes its hard work being pregnant when you have children to look after but in all honesty I would not change it. I love being a mum and I don't think I would know what to do with myself without my girls keeping me busy, being so busy has also made my pregnancy fly by. I do get a little bit jealous when I see first time mummy's to be speaking of afternoon naps and pregnancy spa dates, but a cuddle of one of my girls soon cheers me up and makes me realise how lucky I am.