Saturday, 2 August 2014

Pregnancy When Your A Mum

As you know this is my third pregnancy and i already have two girl's aged eleven and one and i love them to bits and would not change them for the world, but i just have to say to all you first time mum's to be out there i am jealous of you! As being pregnant when you already have children to look after is damn hard work. In your final weeks of pregnancy you are advised to rest and put your feet up and enjoy nesting but in reality you cant do any of that when you have other little people to look after, looking after yourself and resting comes bottom of your list of priorities.

I am lucky that this has been my most easy straightforward pregnancy so far but now my due date is looming i am starting to feel pretty knackered, my feet are fat, i wobble when i walk, i get stuck on the sofa and in bed i am up all night needing a wee and spend half the night awake as i cant get comfortable. And i hate going out as i ache and get all hot and bothered as its summer. But i still have to get up at 7am with Sophia and i still have to cook, clean, change bums, and try and entertain a toddler and a tweenager all day long and i am bloody exhausted.

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My house is a mess and to be honest so am i my hair is long overdue a cut, my eyebrows are all bushy and i forgot the last time i shaved my legs. I only have 17 days until my induction date and in reality baby could arrive any time between now and then and i have not even had a chance to pack my hospital bag, wash the baby clothes or even buy some of the baby things i need. So much for going into nesting mode spring cleaning the house and baking cakes like is often portrayed by the media in the final few weeks of a woman's pregnancy. If i had five minutes to myself to 'nest' i would probably fall asleep as i am sure baby wont mind if all the kitchen cupboards have been neatly organised or not as long as the house is not such a mess that environmental health need to be called out i am sure that the baby wont mind. And as for baking cakes i am sure the girls would prefer a Mr Kipling cake to anything i can rustle up in the kitchen as i am not the best of cooks.

I look back now with fond memory's of my previous pregnancy's as with my oldest daughter i was a first time mummy to be and i had plenty of time to relax i could have baths during the day, i could go for pamper days i went a bit over the top baby shopping and i was super organised and the house was spotless,but that was down to the fact i lived with my mum who i am sure had ocd and always had the house looking like a show home. I read pregnancy books and magazine non stop and knew what was happening with baby's development every week. I was pregnancy mad and eager to learn as much as i could.

Even in my second pregnancy i could relax as there is a ten year gap between my girls, so once i was on maternity leave i could have lie ins on weekends and laze around during the day when Chloe was at school and i could clean to my hearts content (i use to clean non stop in my last pregnancy). When i was suffering badly with morning sickness or in my case it was night time sickness for the whole nine months! it was o.k i could go and hug the toilet for half a hour and i knew Chloe was o.k happily watching tv i would never have been able to do that now with a one year old to look after. I still read pregnancy magazines and had pregnancy apps on my phone i would read every day and i started baby shopping as soon as i had my 12 week scan.

This pregnancy i have only just started my baby shopping at 8 month pregnant, i never get a chance to read books or magazines and i haven't got a clue what my baby is up to this week. its not that i don't care about the baby because i do and i am so happy to be pregnant its just i know that baby is o.k and developing normally and i kind of know what to expect with pregnancy now.

With your first baby one of the biggest worry is if you have the perfect hospital bag packed with my third pregnancy i am more worried about making sure my girls are o.k when i am in labour, luckily we have three lots of relatives on stand by to watch them. With your first baby you want everything to be perfect for there arrival with the third i just want to make sure i have the essential baby stuff ready.With your first you want to look nice in labour and pack make up in your hospital bag with your third you try to remind yourself to shave your legs so you don't scare the midwife's off and make up is the last thing on your mind. With your first baby you have so many day dreams about being a parent and dressing baby in a gorgeous outfit for a nice day out, with your third you dream of someone taking the baby out for a hour so you can have a shower. With your first baby you look forward to midwife appointments and ask lots of questions with your third appointments are a nightmare as you have to arrange childcare or take your children with you and you don't ask any questions as you cant wait to leave as your child is busy trying to trash the place or screaming.

Oh how i wish i could have a day off from being a mum to lovingly wash and iron all the baby clothes, pack my hospital bag, bake cakes, have a pamper,an afternoon nap and lie on the sofa reading a baby magazine. But truth be told if i was giving a day off i would probably spend the day tidying up and missing my girls. Yes its hard work being pregnant when you have children to look after but in all honesty i would not change it as i love being a mum and i don't think i would know what to do with myself without my girls keeping me busy and being so busy has also made my pregnancy fly by and i am in no hurry for baby to arrive early like i was in my first pregnancy. I just want to enjoy the last few weeks of pregnancy and spend time with my girls and i suppose the tiredness is good practice for all the sleepless nights and how busy i will be once i become a mum of three. But i do get a little bit jealous when i see first time mummy's to be speaking of afternoon naps and pregnancy spa dates but a cuddle of one of my girls soon cheers me up and makes me realise how lucky i am.

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17 comments:

  1. I imagine it's quite hard being pregnant when you're already a mum. I enjoyed my pregnancy, but I think if I was pregnant again now that I have my two year old twins, I'd probably forget that I'm pregnant because I don't get chance to sit down or think! Thanks for linking up to the #binkylinky

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    1. I imagine you are rushed off your feet all day with two year old twin girls to look after. Thank you for hosting the #binkylinky i think it is fab idea as i often have a read and discover some lovely new blogs to read. x

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  2. Oh... I do feel for you. I stopped at #2 as I found it hard enough the 2nd time around... don't think I would actually cope with 2 to look after. Its true what they say though... first child bangs its head.. rush to hospital... 2nd child, gives it a quick check and a plaster lol... we just have more experience :-) Hope the end of your pregnancy is as easy as the rest. :-) #binkylinky

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    1. Thank you for reading i only have a few weeks left now so i am trying to enjoy them as this will probably be my last baby i dont think i could cope with or afford four children. Yes its so true you worry so much more with your first. x

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  3. Whew! You just gave me flashbacks to last July! It is so tough being preggo with kids and during the summer time. Hang in there mama, you're almost there!

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    1. Thank you for reading, how did you cope with it ? i know i am complaining now but i bet things will get even harder and more hectic when baby arrives im just glad the other half has 4 weeks off work when baby arrives x

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  4. Oh it is hard - I remember it well as Harry was 3 and Heidi 1 when I was pg with Jack - not easy at all! The thing that really got me was when people say 'sleep when your baby sleeps' that is all well and good in your first pregnancy but there is no way you can do that when you have other children! Even if they are at school - there is still so much to do! Anyway, not long to go now. I have discovered it gets easier when youngest is 3.5 ;-D xxx

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    1. I know people say that to me aswell i would never be able to sleep when i have the girls to look after and they keep telling me to rest but i cant when lee is at work and i have sophia to look after.I bet it was worse for you having harry and heidi both being so young when you were pregnant with jack. I cant wait untill sophia and the baby are a bit oldre so that we can have lovely family days out and holidays like you do as they all look like they get on and are having lots of fun xxx

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    2. The first pregnancy in some ways is the easiest isn't it. I really empathise with you and hope these last weeks go quickly

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    3. Thank you zena i am lucky i have had a easy pregnancy it is just getting tiring now i am nearing the end. I hope you are enjoying life as a busy mum of three xx

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  5. I can so relate to this. I too am on my third pregnancy (21 weeks) and have a three year old and a one year old. I miss the days of my first pregnancy where I could nap and relax instead of chasing around after two toddlers!! Good luck with the rest of it and try and get some rest! #binkylinky

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    1. Thank you rachel , i bet you have it much harder then i do having two toddlers to run around after while being pregnant. I think the only good thing about having children when you are pregnant is that the pregnancy seems to fly over as you are so busy all the time! I hope you enjoy the rest of your pregnancy xx

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  6. Totally agree! Your first pregnancy is all about relaxing and being able to do what you want when you want - similar to when baby is here. But second time round (second and third in one hit for me as had twins!) you can't sleep when baby does and your other child is priority not housework. It's hard to balance but we muddles through as best as we can! Good luck with no 3 xx #binkylink

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    1. Thank you beth, oh gosh that must have been hard work having twins and another child to look after. But i bet it is so nice to have twins and the three of them are great friends. I would love to be able to relax but life is just so busy when you are a mum every day i feel like i am muddling through and i only have two children so far xx

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  7. Sounds exhausting! I only have the one but found managing a daily commute and planning for a new arrival hard work. Adding other kids in must be tough! Nearly there though xx
    Thanks for linking up with #BinkyLinky

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  8. Sounds exhausting. I only have the one but found the daily commute and planning for a new arrival hard. Adding in other kids must be even more shattering. Almost there though :)
    Thanks for linking up with #BinkyLinky

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    1. Thank you for reading, it is exhasusting but i am lucky i am now at stay at home mum i bet the commute when pregnant was hard work i was lucky in my last pregnancy i didnt have far to travel to work and i had a easy job. xx

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